Welcome back! I hope your seat is still warm, because today, we’re gonna be uncovering the cold shoulders of truth! That’s right, we’re gonna be covering the most difficult topic of them all:
Socializing…
Now, before you run for your blankets and cover your face with your hands, let me make myself clear: This is gonna be about how to make such a task easier; and not meant to add complexity and difficulties to the already stressful task of talking. I would like to start us off with what is kicking us to today’s topic, that being a recent letter I’ve been bestowed. It reads:
“Hi. I’m new to MICC. I don’t really know how to open up to people or make friends. Do you have any tips?”
First, let’s give a big clap to this individual for speaking out about the issue no one else will. The bravery and tenacity to bring up such a topic is far more than what I have to do! With such a wonderful question, it’s going to be a challenge to come up with an equally wonderful answer, but I think I know how to help.
Instead of fancy metaphors or serving scoops of philosophical banter, I’m gonna give you the solid truth: When we first enter our little MICC world, we’re going to be starting at ground zero. Unless you’re coming in here with a big group, you’re not going to know many people, and they’re not going to know you. When someone is in this position, what is something that helps make connections and elevates the individual? That’s right, conversations!
If we think of conversation topics like different tiers, you have the first tier, being simple questions and pleasant introductions (i.e. “Hello, how are you doing?” or “Crazy weather lately, huh?”), and higher tiers can focus on shared experiences or interests (i.e. “Wow remember what Bert did last week?” or “Hey check out this kickass D&D Character I made last night.”). The tiers themselves are going to be different with each person, but the first tier will always be the same, since that’s where everyone starts! As you make connections and experiences with someone, you’ll slowly notice the tier rising, and you can stray away from the simple questions (if you want), and get right into the gritty fun stuff.
Oh, I guess I showcased another metaphor after all. Well, that’s what happens when you’re given such an open and difficult question.
If you need to leave reading this with learning only one thing, have it be this: Your creativity is a powerful tool in creating positive connections and experiences. Combining that with patience and empathy will bring you a long, long way.
If this topic has been of interest to you, let me know if I should continue this! Otherwise, feel free to send another question and I’ll get right on it. Or, well, within my weekly schedule…
Until next time, friends of MICC!
Madeline M.
Madeline is currently a senior in MICC’s College Program, working towards her Hospitality certificate. Her creativity is as broad and crazy as her curls – creating entertaining stories and unique perspectives which become instantly memorable and cherished. Despite her wits and ways of forming words, she is constantly challenging herself by developing new skills and leaving a third eye open to anything that’s piqued her curiosity. Whether you find her writing, drawing, music making, golfing, sailing, gaming, programming, or drinking too much Cherry Pepsi, you’ll discover a character that you won’t find anywhere else!